If you want more happiness in your life then listen up. (Or continue to read) I'm going to give you a little bit of advice I recently got about maintaining happiness in your life and some interesting views of happiness.
1. Happiness is like a blank sheet of paper.
2. Happiness is an emotion you tap into at any time
3. Happiness does not mean you ignore the challenges that are going on in your life.
There. With those out in the open let me explain:
Happiness is something that you can have control over. Why? Because who you are is not your role that you play in life. Look at it this way. I heard the other day that we have authority over our own lives. Within the word authority is the word "author." You're the author of your own life script. YOU right you're own script in life and decide the roles that you play and at what level you perform.
See what I mean by the fact that our happiness is like a blank sheet of paper? We are the authors of our own script of life. We have the control over the roles we design and the characters that we write in, or write out for that matter. What a creative and exciting way to view our happiness.
Happiness is an emotion we can tap into at any time if you go back to your basics of NLP anchoring. Remember to go back and think about then visualize in vivid rich detail and color the happiest you've ever been. No matter what age. Then as you have it firmly in your mind anchor the emotion. (One of my favorites is pressing my index finger to my thumb very hard. Just as the emotion subsides I relax my finger.)
At anytime I'm feeling less than what I care for, PRESTO! I Trigger my anchor and I bring back my happy state! (Or any other state you choose) Happiness can be a state of relaxed pleasentnesss not necessarily you jumping up and down going nuts.
Finally all of this happiness (or contentness) doesn't mean you're tip toeing through the toolips all day long and the care bears are hanging out at your place all day and you have no problems. It simply means that yes you're going to have challenges. They will always be there no matter what level of success or state you achieve. Challenges don't have to affect YOU. They can affect your roles that you perform such as being a father, mother, mentor etc.
The great thing is that your roles can improve with out the "you" having any harm done. I've always said you need to go through the low's to appreciate the highs. I still think there is some vailidity to that. You just don't have to become a victim of the lows and a captive of the highs in the process.
Maintain your happines through these 3 steps in times of need and let me know how they work for you!