No tricks no magic...but there is an illusion to be found in this post. More on that in second.
One of the biggest things I've noticed in my network marketing career is the change that people go through. Whether it is the positive change people go through or the fact that change wasn't quite their thing and they dropped out.
Coming to grips with this hasn't always been easy for me. Has it for you? Watching people who you know are completely capable of being successful but quit is saddening and frustrating if you allow it.
Let me quote from a book I've recently read that explains this process of not coping with self change very well and how understanding this can empower you:
"The process of identifying a self inevitably involves loss as well as gain. We discover our boundaries, and those boundaries by definition separate us from our fellows. As we clarify our perceptions, we lose our misconceptions. As we eliminate ambiguity, we lose illusion as well. We arrive at clarity, and clarity creates change...As we notice which friends bore us, which situations leave us stifled, we are often rocked by waves of sorrow. We may want our illusions back! We want to pretend the friendship works. We don't want the trauma of searching for another job."-Julia Cameron, The Complete Artists Way
I still to this day remember an associate that I became good friends with and got close too. I had dinner with his family, we attended events together and I thought for sure he had caught the vision.
Then one day he said to me, "Tony the one thing about this business that bothers me the most is that the people around me I thought were my friends aren't my friends at all. I almost wish I hadn't started this business so that I didn't know any better."
I didn't even realize it but he was saying he wanted his illusion back.
Sure enough about a week later he informed me he was out of the business. His clarity that started to create change scared him so bad so that he chose to go back to the illusion of what was more comfortable. Simply because of the boundaries that he discovered separated him from his friends.
Personal development or self improvement which ever you choose to name it is requires loss as well as gain in order to become who it is you envision.
You will be required to leave parts of "you" behind in order to become the facilitator of the life that you really desire. The same law applies to your associations. Just realize the law of association is in full effect with your new people and the gravitational pull of their associations aren't necessarily the most positive for them but are powerful.
You will also be required to leave people behind. Whether it is your own personal associations or team that choose their associations/illusions over one with you and your team.
Not everyone is prepared or believe they are capable of making that journey. It's not your job to convince them either, only to coach, inspire and create a fun winning environment of empowerment. Your job becomes so much more fun at that point when you let go and it hurts a lot less.
The good news is this. You are now empowered to realize that in order to get to the top you can let go and have fun. Inspire, build your business by excellence and know you can't be everything to everybody but you will empower those ones that are ready, who are prepared and do believe.
They were just looking for someone like you to help direct them on their way. :-}