Those words were what I heard when I was 13 yrs old. I unfortunately still can hear the spite and see the spit coming from my aunts mouth when she spewed those words at me.
I can still remember the double wide trailer we lived in, the dark brown carpet and the hallway leading into her bedroom where we were standing when she said it.
The challenge is I'm sure those words had a lasting impression on me. Well I know they did.
I remember saying "I'll show her." Hence my drive. You can imagine my actions from that point on weren't from a place of good but more from a point of needing to provide social proof that I was worthy.
Not the healthiest place to come from.
So fast forward 22 years later and I'm on the phone with Jana Fleming, an amazing life coach, who takes me from 0 to 60 in less than half an hour. She takes me deep as only a coach could.
I come to realize that my inner parent has taken on a blue print in some ways that act as my Aunt did when I was younger as well as my reaction to her statements as a 13 year old.
Telling myself I'm not worthy of certain success or gods favor, then attempting to prove to myself that I am yet ultimately, sabotaging myself so that the cycle repeats. Certainly sounds like what a computer program would do doesn't it?
Based on my reading of Simple-ology, The Simple Science of Getting What You Want by Mark Joyner, it's exactly what our brains are and exactly the sort of thing we do based on our programming as children.
My inner parent of today just became aware of this because of Jana's coaching. For years I was driven by proving myself. It was an endless non-fulfilling drama that I would put myself through over and over.
Have I had financial success before? Of course. But when I look back I was miserable. The rest of my life just wasn't right.
It's a trap that many people get caught up in. Living by other peoples expectations can be a rat race that drives us to ultimately live unauthentic lives. And I got caught in it big time.
What does my story have to do with you?
Well once again I've made myself very transparent for this reason. To share with you what insights you're also capable of.
As Jana asked me, "How are you parenting your inner child?"
I was stunned even today with my personal development and awareness how I treat my inner child sometimes. Ok, a lot of times.
If you will take some time and ask yourself, would you treat a 3 or 4 year child the way you treat yourself sometimes?
Would you say some of the things to a 3 or 4 year old that you say to yourself?
It's this self insight that has made me very aware of how I talk to myself lately and I'll tell you it can be very tricky. I was caught by one of my closest friends even saying something out load about myself in the midst of this very conversation! They had to make me aware of it!
My biggest suggestion is that anyone can benefit from a life coach or even a business coach in general. Even Tiger woods has a golf coach.
A life coach like Jana Fleming can make you aware of and make you think on topics that could be holding you back in your business and in your everyday life.
I'm not a life coach but I can tell you that many lives have been in my hands and are in the network marketing world I'm in so I feel it is my responsibility to be the best that I can be and be the example.
Self reflection and seeing how I am parenting my inner child has been huge for me and still requires a close circle of friends that I trust and respect that make me aware if I happen to be a bad parent.
Take note of how you're parenting your inner child on a daily basis. One of the great things Jana said for me to do is get a picture of when I was 3 to 5 years old and have it sitting out to remind me of how I'm treating that child.
Hmm I was awful cute at that age so I think I'll go take my inner child to Disney World this weekend lol.
To your success.
P.S. That isn't me in the bathtub but he is a cute little guy isn't he?